My favorite season is Fall. Perhaps it's the cool, brisk air that blows gently through the trees, or the joy of watching my daughters hop out of the car on their way to school, or maybe it's the fact that the weather finally hits its sweet spot right between blazing hot and freezing cold. No matter the reason, I love Fall.
I have learned that Fall brings opportunities to reconnect to my deeper self. Summer is filled with vacations, activity planning for the kids, and it's just HOT! Winter is prep for the holidays and that keeps a woman like me busier than ever. Fall is calm and cozy. It's fireplaces and a good read. It's new beginnings and fresh ideas. It's snuggles and yummy food. Fall is MY season. I go deep in Fall. I fall in Fall.
At 48 years old, I feel pretty deep in most areas of my life. I believe that I am a deep thinker, a thoughtful advisor, and a good listener. I'm also hitting this weird point where sex is a BIG deal. Like a REALLY BIG DEAL. I like it....ALOT! Ok, before you get on your high horse questioning the appropriateness of this Christian woman talking about sex...OPENLY...on a blog. Stop it! Sex is good and good for you. As evidenced by my book, Shelter In The Sun, I have a healthy appetite, a vivid imagination, and believe that good sex begins when you are comfortable in your own skin and when you have a safe, committed partner to share it with. I am VERY comfortable in my skin, and I have a beautiful husband that gets me. In fact, so comfortable that I can neither confirm or deny that one or more of the the racier scenes were based on our life. But I digress.
This got me thinking today about my friends and family. We don't talk about grown folk sex. Like EVER! It is often discussed in the context of youth and carefree living or only for the purpose of producing children. Worse still, it is talked about from a pornographic or salacious standpoint, but no one is talking or celebrating grown folk sex lives that are healthy and fulfilling. I wonder why? Is it because we have been conditioned to keep our sex lives hidden because of generational condemnation? Perhaps it's because we hold shame associated with our appetites or prowess. Maybe, it's because we aren't having it and we are like a shaken Pepsi can ready to explode. I don't know the answer. What I do know is that as fully grown men and women, we deserve desire. For real! Your best days are not behind you. Take time this Fall to fall in love with your skin and then fall in bed (or on a kitchen counter) with the one you love. Oh...and if you don't have anyone to fall with, then here are a few books to stimulate you and give you an Eye-gasm this Fall. Happy reading!
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